It was asked of Me when I was taking some information for a pro-Domme scene why did I ask what the 
submissive enjoyed. I get asked this a lot and so I thought a blog post might be a good way to address it, as I know that many who attend Me read this blog.
The explanation is remarkably simple, and interestingly enough - unlike initial perceptions and appearances is in fact quite a selfish one! LOL! Allow Me to enlighten you… all the items listed on My pro-Domme site as “interests” are genuinely those things I enjoy and consider Myself competent enough to utilise at a professional level. I don’t list things in a “commercial” sense as I see no benefit from going through the motions in a particular area just to earn money. A scene grants Me a type of release, make no mistake, I genuinely adore what I do - both as a Lifestyle and Professional Domina. I gain more from a scene where we are BOTH having fun. So, because My own personal list of kinks is so extensive, it’s far quicker for Me to ask the submissive what they enjoy as they (usually!) have fewer kinks. The energy released when you are both willingly engaged in an activity you both enjoy is far more powerful and satisfying to Me than having someone “endure this for Mistress”. Neither will I engage in activities I dislike or find dull.
I have the luxury of playing with many and varied people, so essentially all My kinks are met across many individual serves. This also goes a long way to explain why I hold various individuals to Me in a Lifestyle sense and why I enjoy working as a Professional so very much - giving all involved in such a scene a more holistic and real experience which is infinitely more enjoyable to us both. I don’t believe that “conveyor belt” Domination grants the Dominant as much satisfaction, and the submissive is left having “almost” gained what they want.
Perhaps because I am Lifestyle as well Professional My primary focus is on creating a D/s exchange which is rewarding to both, rather than being one of the pro-Dommes who is in it “for the money”.
Insightfully
Mistress
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