Yesterday Myself and a few from My household went on an expedition to see Saw V at the cinema. I’m a huge fan of these films and have even been accused of window-shopping for deviant ideas when I watch them! LOL!

The Saw films are unusual in that the plot line is intricate and becomes more so as the series continues. Most sequels start to fade away as they are released, merely cashing in on previous success, with few exceptions. The Saw films fall into this latter category for the most part, with each film having it’s own charm.

• Saw I - made on a limited budget. Simplistic, brutal and at times shocking in terms of human behaviour. My least favourite of the set thus far.
• Saw II - brutal and gory. A raw energy and more complex plot define this film.
• Saw III - the plot increases in complexity and raises many un-answered questions. The traps have an elegance not seen previously in this film and some remain firm favorites of Mine.
• Saw IV- possibly the most complicated in plot terms and easily the most sophisticated of the Saw films to date. Many loose threads from Saw III are addressed. The traps remain beautiful and twisted, the cinematography is outstanding.
• Saw V - fantastic cinematography links past and present time threads as the lead character helps the audience address areas raised in Saw IV. The brutality of Saw II is evident in the traps, helping to remind us that people are dying in the traps; something which faded to an extent in Saw III & IV as the sophistication and elegance of the traps negated this impact in a way. Saw V was called a “re-cap and set up for Saw VI” by two of My companions, something I’m inclined to agree with. It leaves many open questions - paving the way for Saw VI, but also serves in bringing the other films and their complex plot twists into a more easily comprehended whole. I personally left the film feeling vaguely disappointed at this first viewing. While I may alter My opinion  with subsequent viewings (so yes, good enough to watch again) this for Me is like Saw I in that it will need to grow on Me. I felt that the plot line had been “dumbed down” a little in comparison to Saw III & IV. While I enjoy the brutal energy of the traps in this film, I do prefer the beauty of those found in Saw III & IV. A good film and worth a watch, but not My favourite of the series.

Many people believe that visiting a pro-Domme or engaging in BDSM activities is illegal. Let Me enlighten you…..

• If a pro-Domme works alone then Her pemesis are NOT counted as a brothel (sex does NOT have to take place in order for an establishment to be classed as a brothel).
• Even with strict rules regarding sexual contact, a Dominatrix is governed by the same legislation as a prostitue. As such, NEITHER is illegal PROVIDING the client approaches the Domina, rather than the Domina actively soliciting for business.
• BDSM activities are consdiered legal as long as any marks are “transient”. A good rule of thumb is not to break the skin or leave marks that last more than a few days…..some of Us are skilled in leaving the ghost of Our touch on flesh while not leaving a single tell-tale mark
• Some pictures taken as mementos during a scene ARE now illegal - take care!

I simply had to share this with you all. This message was sent to Me by My first ever 24/7 slave, kajirus. We parted company some time ago while he wandered the globe and he’s recently returned to the UK. This made Me smile so much it’s worth 3 nana’s! (you know what I mean kajirus!). The thoughts of vanilla’s innocently requesting abuse is priceless! Hope you all enjoy this as much as I did!

Mistress x

In my cafe there are certain core items on the menu which prove more popular than others, steak and mushroom pie, chicken bacon and tomato quiche and cottage pie being three of them. During busy periods my staff , under my direction, use an abbreviation system to expedite the writing of the tickets that find their way downstairs into the kitchen to me to be cooked…some of my more regular customers have picked up on this and nowadays i regularly am asked for S&M, CP and CBT by very vanilla and often quite well to do denizens of this city. Needless to say Mistress, it is a source of endless delight to me, and every time reminds me of You.
smiles
kajir

Bet the title got your attention! And yes, I am going to discuss penis size! As a professional Dominatrix I get the opportunity to see a wide variety, along with various problems and self-perceptions (yes, being a pro-Domme means acting as a therapist much of the time! I actually talk in depth with many who attend Me).

Lets deal with some facts first:

• The average length of a flacid penis is 3.4 to 3.7 inches (8.6 to 9.3cm).
• The average length of an erect penis is 5.1 to 5.7 inches (12.9 to 14.5cm)
• The average girth of an erect penis is 3.5 to 3.9 inches (8.8 to 10cm).
• There are racial differences in the averages, but research is often inconclusive.

There…everyone isn’t as huge as you’d think, are they? When we view porn we tend to be exposed to actors with a penis size that’s well above average. But believe it or not a large penis can be a disadvantage. Certain sexual positions  are significantly less enjoyable for a female partner if the penis is overly large - making positions like the “yawning position” difficult and/or painful. This is a great shame as this position stimulates the woman’s g-spot, allows for breast and clitoral stimulation and the opportunity to maintain eye contact and even kiss. 

A below average penis size is nothing to get upset about either. The smaller than average penis holds a magic all of it’s own that it’s average or larger brothers will never be able to own in quite the same way. I call a tiny penis a “g-spot cock” for a very good reason! An average penis will strike the g-spot in a woman in a few positions only, limiting impact. A large penis has to be driven with a fair degree of skill to strike a g-spot with accuracy and in a manner that’s beneficial - with even fewer positions available to achieve it in. However, a “g-spot cock” which is definitely below average can strike the g-spot while in the missionary position or “cat position”. 

Why is this such an advantage? These positions are beneficial as they permit good penetration, clitoral stimulation and close emotional and physical contact. All of which mean an outstanding orgasm for the woman. Introduce a “g-spot cock” with a slightly swooping technique and you’re looking at the potential for one of the largest, most intense orgasms known to woman-kind!

The g-spot orgasm is so difficult to achieve for the average or large penis that positioning devices such as the Sportsheets G-Spot Link Kit and the G Pilot G-Spot Guide have been invented. That women adore them so is reflected in the growing number of vibrators created with this specific purpose in mind!

So next time you look at your feet and wish they were a size bigger (this corrolation is a myth, by the way!), just remember, the “g-spot cock” owns a magic that his larger brothers will never have in quite the same way.

Measured

Mistress

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As mentioned previously, sometimes a scene goes so well that time-slips can happen. I encounter this phenomenon frequently, something I consider Myself blessed to experience. The perception of time is altered when the scene causes the release of various chemicals into the system, making the loss of 30 to 60 minutes on the part of both parties possible. Here are some classic examples:

• Playing with Twisted Toy’s nipples for THREE hours, thinking only half that time had passed and having to do the worlds fastest corset change to attend Nemesis!
• Rubber Switch’s innate inability to recognise that it’s now midnight and that four hours playtime can be enough!
• MisBehave’s belief that 2 hours of play at Club Orgasm was in fact “only 10 minutes i don’t wantto move to other equipment, I’m fine up on this cross” or her classic “how can it possibly be home time? W/we just got here, it can’t be 1.30am!”
• Nina - “as W/we’ve not played before an hour is an ideal first scene time”….2 hours later!

The reason I mention these moments specifically is because in each of these cases the scene was so absorbing it wasn’t just the subs who lost track of the time, also they were very large amounts of time to drop. A sub will often experience time-slips when in sub-space, however, it is a less known fact that when Dominants hit “Dom/me Space” or “top space” They lose track of time too. The reason that the Dominant person is often oblivious to the loss of time is down to a variation in the chemicals released in Them during the scene. The chemicals released in a subs system almost always include endorphins (the chemicals that turn up when you exercise) and the body displays physical symptoms of their release. For example the subs pain threshold is elevated (often acknowledged as the sub now being “warmed up” for play), their pulse rate alters and as further chemicals are released into their system, body temperature and skin texture may change.

Because a Dominant is focusing Their skills on the submissive, They often are unaware of the chemicals that are being released into Their own system. In fact, They often become so focused that They are oblivious to a room full of people watching the scene from a respectful distance! (cough….shuffles feet and recalls being stunned that 20 or so people were watching Me play MisBehave at Club Orgasm, thanks to the excellent spotter skills of Rubber Switch!).

Ironically, this complete focus in the scene is actually a clue that those chemicals have been released into the system of the Dominant. To be aware only of the submissive and to be reading tiny responses with accuracy is often a sign that the Dominant has hit D-space and is doing the Dom/me equivalent of being “away with the fairies”!  It’s worth being aware that the bulk of the impact of hitting D-space often only displays more clearly in the Dominant after  the scene has finished. It is only at this point that They may even personally register that They have had such a moment.

As a Professional Dominatrix, you would be reasonable in assuming that I never get these moments with those who attend Me, and that this depth of interaction only occurs when I play on a deeper more personal level. However, half the instances mentioned above are from professional scenes! I really do play as a Lifestyle Mistress when engaged in a scene as a Professional (something which many find difficult if they’ve previously only had experience of Plastic Dommes!).

It’s moments such as these which make Me call BDSM a Dark Dance, because when you are both within a moment woven to such perfection, it really is like a pair of well schooled dancers effortlessly moving together to create something unique and beautiful.

Timelessly

Mistress

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I had the most amusing play I’ve had in ages yesterday! I’m known for having a sense of humour and the session I had with ballboy certainly tickled Me. I treated him to some sound play and some electrical play; some techniques he was familiar with, others came as quite a shock! LOL! Bless him, he settled down into a nice easy place as I led him from areas he knew and then gently into new experiences. While he was on familiar ground he was very mellow and relaxed…once led into new pastures things got a little more interesting! I used a specific advanced technique on him that literally had sparks flying (safely I hasten to add!) and made him leap! However, the funniest moment has got to be when I discovered that with careful placing of TENS pads I could in fact make his balls dance independently. Those of you know Me can clearly imagine the fascination and amusement this brought, as I played with patterns on the TENS unit. Time flew away, and before we knew it we’d over-run!

It’s lovely when scenes hold such natural humour in them. The one I shared with ballboy ranks up there in the chuckle ratings with “a5’s tickle torture at Nemesis” and “m from NY’s scene in 2007″. The other really lovely point is that when the chemistry is right the time really does evaporate when I’m having fun!

Shockingly

Mistress

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