Dear Rubber Switch{TM} arrived to collect his birthday gift from Me (I still owe him the bleeding/trophy part! LOL!) but he collect his “sound gift” and has been left feeling like he’s pissing razor blades. It’s his own fault as he loves sound play so much that he’s inclined to ride the sound while it’s inside him! The end result being that the sound is sent further inside at a faster pace than anticipated. In effect making him fuck the sound. Little tart! LOL!

Yesterday saw Me take delivery of a very special new toy, I am the delighted owner of My very own Torture Toy. he was afraid that after 3 years lack of practice he would let Me down, and fail to be entertaining. Bless him, quite the reverse was true and I was more than delighted in his performance. his meaty nipples were more than up to the sins I laid upon them and he took to sound play like he’d been used to it for ever! In fact, I was using the gravity method (always the safest way to introduce sound play to a novice) and he relaxed so much I had the devil’s job getting it back! Rather than be concerned about safety, I was heard muttering “don’t you DARE swallow that, it’s part of a matched set you know!” LOL! Needless to say, a few muscle contractions later and My sound was returned to Me!

Torture Toy took Me out for a lovely meal, and I enjoyed his company hugely. I can see a future containing a lot of fun and development with My new toy…..he may even earn his place in My stable

Hedonistically

Mistress

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Humanely

Mistress

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However, it occurs to Me that perhaps the subs themselves need to think a little more about the request they make and how early they make it.  Some points to consider before you request ownership:

1. WHY do you wish THIS particular Dominant to own you?
2. Do you accept the full responsibility of being owned? The work, the dedication and the loyalty required are significant.
3. Do you want to be owned because you feel that the Dominant will then make all your decisions for you and that your life will become easier?
4. Where does the Dominant draw Their authority from?
5. What gifts can you bring to the Dominant to make Them look favourably on your request? And no, saying “i’ll do whatever You say and take whatever You want to give” is nowhere near close enough. Dominants get around 5+ such approaches like this every day!
6. What is your understanding of being owned?
7. How do you hope the Dominant will behave towards you if They own you?
8. What is the Dominants expectations of you if They do decide to own you?
9. Do you get along as human beings?

Until these very fundamental issues are addressed it is pointless to attempt to be owned unless you are happy at a much shallower end of D/s interaction, where basically things are light hearted roll play for titillation. This is where genuine members of the United Kinkdom consider the “spank & wank” brigade exist.

Are you happy to be swimming in these sparkling shallow waters? Or would you prefer to have the option to dive more deeply into all that a D/s interaction can be, and perhaps explore the intensity of ownership fully? If you want to be taken seriously, then remember to take your submission seriously and to value it… that way when you kneel before a geniuine Dominant requesting ownership, you will have something of worth to offer to Them.