Mistress Muses

For many, the inclusion of such devices is considered a “cop out” within a scene. The argument goes that submission can not be absolute or complete if the sub is able to call a halt to things, and that the Dominant does not obtain genuine control if safe-words are used. For a start, the use of safe-words exclusively by a submissive is a fallacy.  Safe-words are there to be used by both the Dominant and the submissive. If I had any real concerns about the way a scene was progressing I would not hesitate to use them Myself!

While I can understand why many would hold this to be true, I can not and will not play someone new to Me without such a safeguard in place. How can I possibly claim to be a responsible Dominant without using them with someone new? I have not had time to refine My ability to read that person’s body language and understand their responses, so I can not 100% gauge their experience or reponses. Once W/we are used to each other, safe-words become irrelevant except in exceptional circumstances.

When people come to see Me as a pro-Domme, or when I casually play someone in a fetish club I insist on the use of the traffic light system (red = “emergency/medical stop Mistress”, amber= “please ease off Mistress”, green= “i’m loving it Mistress!”), or a visual signal if I have elected to steal speech from the submissive. It’s a simple precaution that ensures the safety of all concerned.

Obviously, as time goes by we are able to dispense with such things as we get to know each other and trust is built. It is important to note that trust can be built far more quickly if safe-words are in place and don’t need to be used! So another benefit of the use of safe-words can be seen.

If the Dominant plays the sub well enough, then safewords don’t need to be used and trust is gained. Simple and effective! Never play with a Dominant who doesn’t use safewords is the best advice I can offer to someone new to the Kinkdom. Anyone with that much arrogance will not give a session that is enjoyable to both parties!

Safely

Mistress

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Yummy! Today is going to be fun. I have a nice mellow day in front of Me playing with the adorable tykekez348 (long time no serve boy!) and then later rubber-switch is kindly taking Me across to Manchester to capture My darling kenai. Then kenai and I are off to stay at Kinky Cottage, one of My favourite places! 

The lovely Mistress Alpha has arranged for one of Her slaves to drive us to and from Club Lash. I’m looking forward very much to spending time with Mistress Alpha as She is one of My dearest friends and We’ve not had much time together lately as We’ve both been knee deep in other commitments. I’m also looking forward to catching up with Dave the Butcher, who has elegantly offered to buy Me “half a pint of shandy”……..mines a pint luv!

The theme at Club Lash this time is “cowboys and Indians”. Won’t that be interesting???????? I have an outfit or two in mind….hmmmmm….fetish wear or theme wear???? Decisions, decisions!

Femininely

Mistress

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