Mistress Muses

For those of you who have been requesting this endlessly, I am delighted to announce that I shall be attending the Torture Garden in London across the weekend of May 2nd-4th 2008. I will be there with My darling kenai and some friends of ours to attend TG’s a birthday, but I will engage in some selected play on a first-come basis (after playing those I’m with, naturally!). I will also meet My London serves as a priority over “newcomers”.

I may be inclined to hire a dungeon for the day for pre-event play should there be sufficient interest. If you would like to session with Me, please express your interest sooner rather than later to avoid disappointment. I’ll be closing to applications at the end of this month, or sooner if I become fully booked.

Return visits to London may be arranged later in the year - I know several of you would like Me to consider regular planned London sessions. I may be developing some other business interests in the London area as the year progresses too.

Citywise

Mistress

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For many, the inclusion of such devices is considered a “cop out” within a scene. The argument goes that submission can not be absolute or complete if the sub is able to call a halt to things, and that the Dominant does not obtain genuine control if safe-words are used. For a start, the use of safe-words exclusively by a submissive is a fallacy.  Safe-words are there to be used by both the Dominant and the submissive. If I had any real concerns about the way a scene was progressing I would not hesitate to use them Myself!

While I can understand why many would hold this to be true, I can not and will not play someone new to Me without such a safeguard in place. How can I possibly claim to be a responsible Dominant without using them with someone new? I have not had time to refine My ability to read that person’s body language and understand their responses, so I can not 100% gauge their experience or reponses. Once W/we are used to each other, safe-words become irrelevant except in exceptional circumstances.

When people come to see Me as a pro-Domme, or when I casually play someone in a fetish club I insist on the use of the traffic light system (red = “emergency/medical stop Mistress”, amber= “please ease off Mistress”, green= “i’m loving it Mistress!”), or a visual signal if I have elected to steal speech from the submissive. It’s a simple precaution that ensures the safety of all concerned.

Obviously, as time goes by we are able to dispense with such things as we get to know each other and trust is built. It is important to note that trust can be built far more quickly if safe-words are in place and don’t need to be used! So another benefit of the use of safe-words can be seen.

If the Dominant plays the sub well enough, then safewords don’t need to be used and trust is gained. Simple and effective! Never play with a Dominant who doesn’t use safewords is the best advice I can offer to someone new to the Kinkdom. Anyone with that much arrogance will not give a session that is enjoyable to both parties!

Safely

Mistress

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